Well, this is a topic which my brain has never been able to process in a complete way. The three words "I am committed" are very different from the three words " I love you", right?! May be the latter is far easier to express than being committed to the word "committed".
I recently saw a couple of my friends changing their orkut account relationship status to "committed" from "single". When can a guy or a girl say the three words. Donot confuse with "I love you", but here I am speaking about " I am committed". How can one differentiate between the two! Is it just infatuation? Is it attraction? Is it lure? Is it lust? Is it liking? Is it love? Is it time to get committed?
Is it age status? Is it financial status? Is it family status? Or rather say, is it a psychological status? I think it requires a lot of confidence, lot of courage and lot of surity to tell the three words. Above all that feel of a need of a partner in life, someone above other friends. In country like India, some may say, "My parents decided, so I have no objection to get committed". But hey stop, what is your personal status [barring your parent's support] before deciding on it? Have you become completely independent enough to care for the new person in your life? In all ways, it may be personal care or it may be 'roti-kapda-makaan' [food clothing & shelter] or it may be anything to live happily. Have you become eligible to look after yourself first before you can welcome the new person in your life. And above that, I never understood how can a person get committed to lead their rest of life to someone whom they have never met before in life.
95% of bollywood movies and 70% of hollywood movies are based on the subject of Love or committment though both are different and 99% of these movies have a happy ending misguiding the people, especially the category of youth. I donot mean thats a major influence but it has a part of influence which nobody can deny!
That doesnot mean "go on, decide yourself of your life partner!" You do need your parents to be happy with you right. They have put years of effort to bring you up. They are the ones who are responsible for what we are now. They do deserve something return from us though they never demand for it!
To be honest, I think I am going out of focus of the point ha ha. I am just asking when can a person tell the three words and stick on to it without any risk. Have your say people, I know everyone have their own view points on this topic!
ha ha. this "committed" thing which people add to they orkut status just means they have got engaged and that you will receive their wedding invitation card in few days. that's all.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate the way you look at it :) There is responsibility attached to 'I am committed',Whereas,'I love you' has become too very casual these days! Its highly over used and over rated set of 3 words! Seriousness is something that is hard to be found these days and relationships have become something people 'flaunt'! As for parents, there are few easy going ones and few others who have a major ego problem and are relentlessly trying to 'WIN' over their kids...so it depends on what category we are dealing with ;)But by the end of the day,it depends on how much willing people are to work things out and do justice to both parents and partner. Nice thoughts :) Keep them coming!
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ReplyDelete@ DK: Yes, I understand that but never understood what makes them eligible to do so ;)
ReplyDelete@ RR: Thank you. Well, you are right. Its all very subjective and situational. Life is after all a compromise if things are not going our way!
Well, in my opinion, saying "I love you" is itself a commitment. But as Raksha put it, it has become a fashionable statement nowadays. To say "I love you" one must first know how to say the "I."
ReplyDeleteWhen one learns to say the "I" and says "I love you" in its purest form, and means it, it is nothing but commitment.
But changing girlfriends/boyfriends has become a fashion nowadays. It's the 'Attitude' thing now. Can't really vouch for such morons.
You are right by the way. One needs courage to say those words. Nice post. Keep 'em coming. :-)
@Karthik: Thank you for d comment:-)
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